When you really think about it, every relationship you begin is headed for one of two basic outcomes: break-up or marriage. Since the heartache of break-up is something you want to try and avoid, it’s important to consider the end of a relationship even before it begins. Since the ultimate purpose of a committed and serious relationship is marriage, it’s important to examine yourself prior to entering into a relationship to see if you’re ready for this major step. Here are a few criteria to look for.
While money may not be able to buy happiness, it can certainly help buy a stress-free relationship. It’s estimated that at least 35 percent of relationships end due to some type of financial stress. It’s important, then, to examine your own financial status before entering into a serious relationship. This doesn’t mean just determining how much money you currently have. Anyone can have a lot of money but still, have a lousy relationship. You also need to become decent at budgeting, so all that money doesn’t disappear, as well as learning to be generous with it since you’ll eventually hold most or all of your assets in common with your partner if things continue. Starting a relationship on strong financial footing is a great way to help it last a long time.
Another important factor to consider before committing to a serious relationship is how any past relationships have ended. Don’t be like a certain country-turned-pop superstar who assumes that all breakups are everyone’s fault but hers. Girls working for Toronto escorts have been always vocal about this. Usually (but certainly not always), when a relationship ends, both people are at fault, at least to some extent. Think through past relationships you’ve been in, either alone or with a trusted friend or counselor, to determine where you have been at fault. Use this information to make positive changes that can help your current relationship thrive and bloom.
You only have 24 hours in a day, so you must determine how best to use the time you have in order to make the most of life. Being in a relationship doesn’t require you to give up all the activities you enjoyed before that relationship- in fact, it’s quite healthy to have hobbies that don’t exclusively involve your significant other. On the other hand, you don’t want to be so busy with other commitments that you don’t have time to devote to developing your relationship. Even the least-jealous partner has a breaking point, so work hard to avoid finding out what that limit is.
Speaking of time commitments, it’s important to consider your educational aspirations before committing to a serious relationship. Not that you can’t be in a serious relationship while still pursuing your goals, just that it can be more difficult and time-consuming for many people. You and you alone need to decide if you want to finish your education before beginning a relationship. It’s also important to consider if you plan on furthering your education “down-the-road” so you can discuss that information with your partner so you’ll both be on the same page.
Another important consideration before beginning a relationship is to think about where you and your partner currently live. If you are both from the same town, it should be easy to settle on a place to live together, as well. If you’re from different parts of the country, however, at some point you’re going to have to figure out where to settle down. If one or the other of you is particularly close to your family, this could suddenly introduce a whole set of family dynamics issues that could easily disrupt a relationship. So, consider if you or your partner would be willing to re-locate, and also consider what types of problems that may cause down the road.
Serious Means Serious
Ultimately, the most important factor in any serious relationship is that both parties are truly committed to a serious relationship. For you, this means being willing to set aside the months or years for the relationship until one of the possible outcomes mentioned earlier is reached. A serious relationship cannot work if only 50% of the people are truly committed to making it work. So, you must work to give 100% of your effort to the 50% you have control over. Do that, and you have a great chance of taking things long-term.